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Menstruation is a Fundamental Function of The Female Body and Pillar to Self-Esteem

Updated: Nov 27, 2025

I remember a time when I was uncomfortable in my body, and frankly disconnected from it; living mostly in my mind through negative self-talk and body shaming. And I know this is something that many of us have in common.

Also a trait of Virgo, who represents the relationship we have to our physical bodies, health and hygiene. Sometimes, we can fall into the shadows of distorted body image, hypercriticism and perfectionism…

Only holding value for what is perceived as “clean”, “young” and “pure”. An emotional, mental and spiritual epidemic in society, the media and deep within the collective unconscious.

Ugh. I still feel this lingering within me from time to time but something really healing has occurred in this regard over the past few years, especially since I started honouring my Moon time. Gradually, I’ve developed a much healthier relationship with my natural body, that most of us are taught to be ashamed of (explicitly or not).


Person sunbathes on a sandy beach by a calm lake. Blue sky, scattered clouds, trees in background. Relaxed mood, straw hat nearby.

Nudity. Menstruation. Genitals. Sexuality. Breasts. Body hair. Body weight. Etc. (taboo, am I right?!)


To be honest, my partner and I were naked every chance we could during our cross Canada road trip and it was f*cking liberating. We see children naked and free at the beach all the time but as we get older, we tend develop deep shame about our natural bodies.

Young girls are meant to be initiated into #womanhood on their first #menses, celebrating the arrival of the magical creative force within and openly guided through the learning process – this is called #menarche. The truth is, in modern society, this is practically non-existent, and most womxn do not receive the proper support for developing a healthy relationship with their bodies.

The thing is, menstruation is a natural fundamental function of the #female body.

So when we are disconnected from it, neglect it or have a negative association with it, this sets a shaky foundation for the relationship with our physical body which in turn can lead to low #selfesteem and #selfworth… Spilling out into all areas of life. Unfortunately, most womxn wish their #menstrualcycle would just go away or be controllable.


When womxn don't honour this natural, fundamental bodily function, they inherently believe something is wrong with them. This is something that is programmed deep within our #subconscious.

Now, think of ALL the generations of womxn who have experienced this before us... This lives in our bodies and #psyches as generational trauma and #shame.

It is truly empowering and healing to honour your menstrual cycle. But this also invites you to change your lifestyle, breakthrough the layers of subconscious programming and heal the repressed feminine.

When I first awakened to the magnitude of this reality, I was filled with anger, sadness and betrayal. I felt like I had missed out on something that is so important for my overall health and wellbeing as a womxn. I felt like I had been neglected of something that is essentially my birth right as woman.


Notebook page with "Embodying your natural rhythms is your birthright" in script, alongside a crescent moon and drops. Green leaves surround.

I now realize this was the repressed feminine coming to the surface, and it's the exact force of energy I needed to transform and heal myself. It is also the pain that fuels my passion to do this.


When we do this kind of work, it's also important to tap into the heart space and come from a place of understanding and forgiveness for the womxn in our lives. They did the best they could based on what they learned from the womxn in their lives AND from the societal pressures.


When you do this work, you not only heal yourself but you also help heal the generations before you and are setting the pace for a new paradigm of consciousness for future generations.



Cosmic love. XO


~ Thank you, merci, miigwetch.


Alex Albert-McCoy, Of The Wild

A woman with brown hair and white skin, with her hand on her heart, in and snowy and forest background.

Hi/bonjour! I'm a Registered Psychotherapist (Qualifying), Counselling Astrologer, and Certified Yoga Teacher. I use trauma-informed, depth-oriented, and holistic approaches to guide you on your journey home to your authentic Self.



 
 
 

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